One of the craziest and sometimes very rewarding things to do is to shake off all the prejudices we were raised with and break the censoring barriers set by society. There is absolutely no reason why people should be ashamed to stand up for their beliefs and be afraid to exteriorize their feelings in today's modern world when everything is adapting nicely to the ever changing society. There should not be taboo subjects around us, there should be absolute freedom of expression so that we can keep up with the ongoing rhythms and beats of the world.
We have stopped listening to what other people say long ago, or at least we should have done that, so why be afraid to show your true self? Why shouldn't you feel proud of who you are and of what you have accomplished? Just because you chose to step out of the boring side of the world and you have become a symbol of courage and inspiration doesn't mean you belong with society's outcasts. If you are one of the older women dating younger men you can come out now. There is no reason for you to hide in the darkest corner of your soul's closet and throw away the key. Set yourself free and start enjoying the wonderful experience because you have nothing to regret on the contrary you have so much to lose.
This is one phenomenon society is in the process of adapting to and now it finally got named as Cougar dating. A rather sexist and discriminatory tag if I am entitled to a personal opinion. After all, older men have been dating much younger women since the beginning of time and nobody calls them names. Age has stopped being a criteria long ago and aren't we the ones claiming that love knows no rules, no boundaries, no prejudices? Relationships between older women and younger men can bring so much inconceivable amount of happiness and satisfaction. Many women found their true love thanks to this kind of bravery.
Young men find dating older women such a revealing experience. They learn how to grow into mature and confident individuals. Older women are more experienced than younger men and they take the guys down the initiating path of stability and reason. Older women dating younger men are also a great source of inspiration as men are given the unique chance to accelerate the process of defining their masculinity. Older women are often open-minded and very determined, knowing what exactly is it that they desire from a man thus instilling a priceless sense of self-confidence and trust in their younger partners. There is also this incredible temptation that older women emanate they generate some sort of a forbidden fruit syndrome. Men know that maybe older women are out of reach or that they are considered taboo and that makes them even more attractive.
While young ladies are surrounded by interested men, older women represent the perfect alternative for those men who either fear competition or who prefer to keep things simple. Lesser competition can be a determining factor in given situations. Not to mention that sometimes men are the ones who are being courted by older women in bars or even on the internet as their liberated craving for fun nature enables them to take the first step into the unknown. Older women dating younger men is the best way to increase men's self esteem and boost their ego transforming them from the little guy across the street to the most wanted man walking on the surface of his world.
Inexperienced young men find relationships with other women extremely comfortable because experienced older women are more likely to make the situation easier for men and to take the charge while taking the pressure off their shoulders too, thanks to her previous personal experience. There is also a saying flowing restless and it goes something like this: women are like wine they get better with age. Older women are also much more responsible taking contraceptives to not get pregnant and change the terms of the relationship, protecting herself and her younger partner from unwanted surprises. These very intelligent women are not as shallow as regular young women are so they seem a lot more confident and can pose as the intellectual mystery woman waiting to be revealed step by step unlike young women who put themselves on the platter. Young men are mostly charmed by the interesting conversations they have with older women who have other topics in mind than lipsticks, jewels, sporty rides and so on.
It is simply amazing how older women dating younger men can turn into a mother and son relationship. Most younger men have the unconscious need to find their mother in relationship partners so it is obvious why some younger men needs older women to nurture that child hiding in them. There is always something very appealing being in a relationship with a financially independent women who have great careers and do not need taking care of. It kind of balances the scale and wakes up locked feelings inside men as they go crazy for a self-sufficient woman who can handle a business successfully.
You should cover your "eyes" if you don't want to "hear" this but when it comes to older women one thing is certain, they love their meat fresh! Women love the innocence oozed by their much younger lovers. It feels somewhat like moving into an untouched soul that is all theirs and has no markings of other inhabitants whatsoever. The positive incredible flow of energy a younger person gives to them is irreplaceable by any close to perfect man around their age. Women are looking for men who go by the carpe diem motto and who are willing to love them passionately. Younger men are definitely better than Botox and they even make diamonds fade and lose the title of women's best friends. Spontaneity is the sexiest secret key to a woman's heart who loves to live an exciting life.
Here is an advice for all you older women dating younger guys! It is time for you to loosen up and enjoy the ride. Enjoy all that wild energy coming from your late night encounters because the greatest thing about dating younger men is the great sex you are getting. Take that for a bonus! It is the perfect combination for those who want to try new and exciting things not to mention that your life in the bedroom is bound to be upgraded in ways you can't even dare to imagine. You will never have to fear routine again and you will be able to fully enjoy that wellspring of stamina taking you to breathtaking heights. You will start loving this new routine that you now call daily pleasure.
Older women seek respect in their younger lovers and love to spend their time with a man who can listen to them and take in every word coming out her mouth like sponge because women also love to invest in younger men's potential when they see one. If it works for famous celebrity couples like Courtney and David, Demi and Ashton and Eva and Tony then it can work out for you too without any doubt.
Older women dating younger men can be a life changing experience with nothing to lose and plenty to learn. It can open your mind and change the way you see things completely just like opening mesmerizing new horizons. Live your life to the fullest next to your partner and always remember to be proud of who you are and of the woman inside you. These are all the ingredients necessary for every woman's soon to be very happy life.
The latest census by the U.K Census Bureau confirmed singles in Britain are now covering 35% of the adult population. This number translates to a rise of dating sites targeting a mature audience such as yours truly. I have gathered a list of important issues to ponder upon when you find yourself dating over 50. Remember, you might think being over 50 means you know yourself and what you are looking for. If this is you I am describing, consider these two facts by behavioural scientist Dr. Susan Weinschenk, as part of a publication in the Business Insider:
- People see what they expect to see
- People get used to the frequency of an event.
Just keep this in mind as you read on, I might just get back to you on these ones. Also, they are important as an afterthought to all other questions subject for scrutiny.
Consider why you are single
Why are you dating over 50 exactly? Being single has become more of a modern trend these days than a necessarily meticulous preference. It should be though. You can be single as much as you want, but please, if you are single over 50 then you should at least know why. Was it him? Was it you? Is there a slight possibility that human beings are so complex and so holistic and even dilutional that it could have been both?
Consider reconsidering what you are looking for
Here is a quote I would like you to also consider for this passage:
If the lessons of history teach us anything it is that nobody learns the lessons that history teaches us. - Anon
Now, let me link this together for you. Maybe you might actually find yourself in a post-divorce continuation and have learned absolutely nothing from it! Are you still looking for the same qualities that you tend to clash with in combination? You should really consider what you are looking for and see if you can change some pointers up a bit.
Consider changing your habits
Because it’s true. We are creatures of habits and you know it. I can bet some good money on you having the same drink for breakfast most days and prefer to summarily read the news at a certain time. That’s OK, no one gets hurt there. I have a suggestion though; if your habits include when you shop your groceries or when you go to the gym, when you visit friends or when you are social – switch it around.
Because, here is the magic, other people are creatures of habits too, and there might be people even in your close area you have never met before due to them following a different shop-gym-social calendar than you. Remember my subject 2 for consideration: People get used to the frequency of an event. This means that you are also expecting things to happen in the same way they have before.
Consider your wanted relationship agreement
Here is something to think about: Do you want someone who will spend every day and night with you? What would that mean in your life today? Weekend arrangements or even rarer than that could be something way more appropriate for you. I am not saying it is. I am saying you should consider it. When dating over 50 people tend to come with a very settled sense of self and habits that you might not have the vivacity to live with or even enthusiasm to ignore every day.
Consider how you want to find your date
Dating over 50 offers a lot of possibilities. You can choose to meet people online, on numerous datingsites either specialized for dating over 50 or a general platform for meeting partners. What does it mean to meet people online though? Does it mean you have more options? Are they genuine options? Opt for a dating platform known to have a more mature audience, unless that is not what you are looking for, that is. Then we have the other choices around; the bar, the park, social ads, speed-dating, blind dates, there are so many dating options that it becomes overwhelming to choose HOW, even before the WHO. Here is a thought though; just consider it, don’t drown yourself in the question. There are good people everywhere, and your future partner might just fall in your lap, regardless of what pessimistic people might have told you.
Consider your own flaws
It’s hard to believe that people over 50 are not perfect, yet something tells me we have all experiences telling us that little changes in your brain after you turn 27. You are 27 in your head until you turn 77, then you start getting younger again, I dare claim. It’s kind of our blessing, yet it might mean that we are equally unperfect to what we were at 27. SHIT, that is a tough pill to swallow. However, ignoring the “facts” does not mean they disappear, so sit down and listen to what you know to be your own flaws. You might not have to get rid of them, but know they are there and thereby allow your potential partner to know they exist and that living with you means accepting your flaws. It’s much easier to live with someone’s glitches when they are comfortable with themselves.
Consider your current life situation
What can you offer someone today? Are you in the right place to be looking for a relationship right now? If you are not ready, then you might not get what you are looking for. I learned and believe firmly that you need to love yourself and accept you to be a good partner to others. This goes for every relationship in your life. OH, and would you look at that, Buddha agrees with me:
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” -Buddha
So, consider yourself and your life. You are just as important to figure out how to love as anybody else.
Consider the meaning of their life
They have a very intricate and comprehensive life too. What is the meaning they see in their own lives? It is important to not only consider a person’s life and accomplishments, but also the meaning they find in these facts about their life, that will have a big impact on you later in the relationship. Finding a partner who is at peace with their situation will always give more room for growth in you. Now, I want to bring you back to my first point; People see what they expect to see. Don’t do this in your new partner. See the attributes they have instead of comparing them to your previous relationships. They are not the same person. No matter how much you try and fit them in there.
Consider testing your own limits
You are single and over 50, there is absolutely NO reason why you should keep doing the same things in your love life, your field of interest, your dating plan of action, and so it continues. You have some experience; now forget everything you know and try something new! Read an inspirational book like “Tales of Grateful Aging from the Planet Denial” by Nicole Hollander, or watch something, and start creating new things in your life. If you chose to after closely considering it, that is!
Consider how close you are to 50
This is meant to be a moment of self-reflection. How close you are to 50 means a lot when it comes to knowing your situation and how it affects you. If you are 50 on the dot, then chances are you are either overexcited about dating over 50 and perhaps you just recently reached that status? Or you are extremely pessimistic about it, which you can just wrap up and throw to the stock market straight away. There is no room for pessimism in your life and you know it!
Just see yourself from a very general standpoint here; if you are 60 or over, then chances are you might be more pessimistic about it, which again – where is your manners? No, in all seriousness though, there is a big chance you also have a lot to be thankful for and negativity never really attract the right kind of partner anyway, I would think, I cannot scientifically prove that though.
Consider old flames
A study conducted by researchers from Harvard and Kent state University shows that people don’t see what is right in front of them. So therefore, it might be that you have, as most of us, ignored very compatible people around you. Remember my subject 2 for consideration: People get used to the frequency of an event. This means that you are also expecting things to happen in the same way it has done before. If you look in the same places for the same pattern, I would think it would be splendid logic to expect a different outcome, no? No. So therefore, it might be worth considering breaking your habits of expectation and see if you can start with a solid friendship with someone you already know? I don’t know, think about it!
Consider looking abroad
Dating over 50 is revolutionized. Travel expenses and bungalows don’t cost much these days and there is so many potential partners and happy over 50s living life to the fullest. Don’t limit yourself to one continent, 2017 is a time to be greedy. Hop a plane and see where it lands. There is bound to be single men and women over 50 there. And the most incredible thing about it is that it awards you with culture and lifelong impressions as a side-effect.
Consider staying single
This might seem like strange advice, but consider it. Maybe it’s not such a bad deal after all? I mean, staying single doesn’t mean living by yourself and it doesn’t mean being lonely either. There are many people out there who would thrive in an environment where they can live with old friends and enjoy good company which are commitment free and uncomplicated. Sex often dies off after a while so what is left of a relationship is usually a great connection and company. This can be found in many shapes and forms. Find other people out there who are looking for good company too. There are plenty! Or don’t – but consider it!
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